Have you ever thought about how nice it would be to train like a celebrity who has a personal coach to manage their exercise and nutrition? It really does sound dreamy! As we daydream, we miss the fact that no one can actually DO the hard work for us. The best coaches are the ones that spur their clients onto greatness rather than trying to push them there. Sure, having someone prepare all of your healthy meals would be amazing but it would teach you nothing about how to plan, shop, prep, and prepare nourishing foods.
Below I am going to share a little bit with you about what makes great coaches truly great. Then I will introduce you to a new resource that will help you find that “Hollywood” place of your own.
THE PERILS OF PERSONAL TRAINING
I have worked as a personal trainer for over 7 years and while I now spend most of my time blogging and coaching, training is something that I still enjoy doing. As much as I loved working with my PT clients there was one thing about training in the gym environment that snatched the joy right out of my job- rep counting. Let me explain.
Whether bound to a gym contract or just feeling obligated, there were some folks who truly did not want to lift weights. They felt like they “should” be increasing their lean mass. They believed that they “must” work out. And, so, they found themselves with me, in the gym. They came, I counted their reps.
As a trainer, I did my best to draw out the client’s intrinsic motivation. You can’t help but wonder- what was deep inside that person that compelled them to show up to the gym when it was the last place on earth they wanted to be? There was a good reason, I just needed to help them find it.
It is the same with you and me. Even though some days it feels like we are swimming upstream, we have our reasons for wanting to be our best selves. In coaching, we uncover our deepest motivations and learn from the times we veer off course from them.
5 COACHING STRATEGIES TO APPLY TO YOUR GOALS
Here are 5 tips you can apply to your own health and fitness journey!
1. VIEW YOUR LIFE AS AN OBSERVER
One of the reasons coaches are so helpful is because they offer us an outside perspective. You know how we can see circumstances a lot more clearly in someone else’s life? This is what outside observation can do. You see, we are often so close to our challenges that we can’t see a solution. Our emotions and negative self-talk get in there and really muddy things up.
By mentally taking a step back and seeing your life as if it were playing on a movie screen, you can get a grasp of the big picture of change.
2. STAY OUT OF THE JUDGEMENT ZONE
While we are called to have discretion in our lives, pessimistic self-judgement can be a huge roadblock to progress. While berating ourselves may seem like it would motivate change, it does just the opposite. When one feels incapable of attaining new hopes and new dreams, why would they bother even trying?
If you are a Christian, then you know we are instructed that condemnation has no value. Labeling our behaviors or worse yet- ourselves in a negative light does no one, no good. Allow your heart to be convicted to improve but keep away from the tunnel vision that foregoes your identity in Christ.
3. UNPACK WHY YOU ARE HERE
Why did you even start reading this blog post? You, my friend, have a fire for better things within you! But, life happens to you and you may find yourself dishearted… your hopes buried beneath a pile of unsuccessful attempts at change.
The first step is to recognize your resilience. You certainly could have given up a long time ago and yet here you are, showing up to make your goals happen! Obviously, healthy habits ARE important to you!
Second, dig deep into where that resilience comes from. What do you really want and why? It’s more than just weight loss or a faster 10k. Don’t stop digging until you find your “want to”. It’s there, I promise.
4. BITE OFF WHAT YOU CAN CHEW
Now that you have seen why you want to achieve your goals, it is important to choose a doable way to get where you want to go. Diets fail us in their drastic measures. 99% of us need slow, sustainable changes that we can gradually assimilate into our lives. This means choosing dietary, exercise, and other life-enhancing habits that you feel completely confident that you can implement.
Ask yourself- “On a scale of 1-10 how confident I am that I can do this chosen habit-practice for the next 30 days?”. If you are less than an 8, adjust your habit.
5. RE-EVALUATE AS YOU GO
Great coaches make results-based decisions. This simply means that they look at the outcome of the chosen practice and adjust from there. They don’t make assumptions, they measure results and tweak their plan or approach, as needed. This is a great place to visit point number 2 again! If your week or month doesn’t go as planned, don’t sweat it.
Evaluate what went well and what could use some improvement. Adjust and MOVE ON!
APPLY THESE STRATEGIES IN YOUR LIFE
If you like the way this approach to reaching your goals sounds, I would encourage you to check out this fantastic resource that I created to help guide you along the way.
The Ultimate 12- Week Healthy Habit Goal Setting Planner is more than just an e-book. It is a guide that will walk you through the process of habit change just like the best coaches in the world do!
Are you sick of diets, exercise plans, and what feels like empty promises to live a healthy life? The Ultimate 12- Week Healthy Habit Goal Setting Planner will give you the tools that you need to stop spinning your wheels and start progressing TODAY.
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As you can see, great coaching isn’t about fancy tactics that create instantaneous success. It’s about living real life in an intentional way, allowing setbacks and successes to become equally informative in your process. It’s not about perfection, it’s about persistence.
If you keep moving forward, standing on your faith, giving yourself grace and focusing on what really matters to you and God- you WILL be successful!
Brandice Lardner is a Certified Personal Trainer, Nutrition Coach, Author, and Jesus Girl whose mission in life is to help women ditch the diet mentality and find peace with food and their bodies so that they are better equipped to do the great things God has called them to do.